Monday, June 13, 2011

Our Youth Leave Too Early.....

How do you ever go about writing about something that is truly sad,yet, still needs to be told?
This is such a story and I will try and keep it short here, I will not mention names..

I first met his Mom, we started dating. She has a 13yr old son. This story is more about him than us.

He exemplified potential, bright, handsome, world class athlete but there was an obvious dark side. Behind the smile you could feel the anger.
At first I had no idea while I was getting this feeling, as time went on, it all became much to apparent. Drugs, this very young man, was already at a very young age, under the lure of the mystique the drug world projects. Now, I am not talking about, the social drugs, such as marijuana, no, extasy,heroin, meth and  the much too accessible prescription pills.

I had no idea that our schoolchildren had such easy access to these drugs.

Last Saturday night, 12yrs of knowing and observing this young man all came to an end. During these last 12yrs I had come to the point, that he was unofficially, my adopted son. This is why it has been a very hard week for me, he is dead at 25yrs old, suddenly, no warning, just dead.

He had gone into a local convenient store, to sell the owner a sawed off shotgun. One that he had, "found". He was inebriated, pulling the gun from the case, he fumbled, hit the trigger, the gun went off, removing his head and face.

Dead. Dead at 25yrs. Two children, a 4yr old daughter and 3yr old son, are left without a father. Too often I have read about these type of events but never experiencing it first hand, it is heart wrenching to know, that this indeed is a reality.

After the memorial service, family members all gathered, pictures taken, hugs and tears are shared.
I noticed or observed, that same strange, dark glare, on the face of that small boy, that had just lost his father, the same anger that I had recognized in his fathers face, 12yrs ago. Sadness welled up inside of me that I can not describe.

When, these buyers, of "found" articles, are discovered, maybe then, I will have at least a small bit of piece.

Sorry that I have been away for so long, only to return with a sad story but felt I had to write some of my thoughts down, so as to clear my head and cleanse my emotions.....thank you.....Bob

20 comments:

plainolebob said...

I meant peace, not piece...sorry

Bruce Coltin said...

I have missed you, my friend. This is not the way I wanted to greet you on your return. You will have to endure your pain, but you still have a chance to help save the living.

plainolebob said...

thanks Bruce

Sandee said...

I'm so very sorry. So very sorry. I've seen this played out more than once and it's always so very sad.

Big hugs. :)

john said...

you post made me happy to know your still around but devistated at the news, i just hope you have some comfort knowing he is at peace now.

Sarah said...

Such a sad story. Drugs have ruined many lives, and all so senselessly. I hope someone takes care of the little boy's soul.

Greenfingers said...

Such a sad, true story but so heartfelt in your telling. I hope that you and your family find peace and comfort in the following days.

Alice in Wonderland said...

Bob, you have really been missed in the Blogosphere,and I'm pleased to see you back, but this is terrible news.
You know that I know a bit of your past and the heartache that you have been through, I just want you to know that my thought are with you at this sad time.
Stay strong, my friend.
Big hugs.

Farila said...

The news is terrible and makes me sad but at the same time I happy to see you back on blogs.. haven't been here much myself.

Mandy said...

Sad - The terrible news.
Very happy - You're back! Yeah!

Veggieman said...

Bob,

Sorry for your loss. I know what you mean about drugs and that dark smile. I work with troubled youth and I see what you are talking about almost every day and it breaks my heart when I hear stories like these.

-TGVOOT

crazy4christ said...

I am so sorry for your loss. For your recent loss and also for the struggles you and everyone who has loved him must have endured for all those years. You will all be in my prayers.

Tilly Moments said...

First time i have read your blog and i'm sorry that it was this story i read first. What i mean is it was sad and i can feel how the past bothers you as history may be repeated. I know how that feels.

MaMy thoughts are with you

Betty Manousos@ Cut and Dry said...

hi bob
i just was wondering about your whereabouts and thought i'd pop over to your site to say hello...but this is so terrible news and makes me so sad...

please stay strong and positive, my friend.

big hugs
betty

Betty Manousos@ Cut and Dry said...

my thoughts are with you, friend.

(((hugs)))

parttime jobs said...

i felt so sorry and sad ... happy to see you back

Dr. P. Poorluk said...

Sorry for your loss Bob. One of the many devastating results of drug abuse is the harm caused to others. In this case, the ultimate. Hope to hear from you soon.

Betty Manousos@ Cut and Dry said...

you have really been missed, around the blogland, bob.

thanks so much for your kind words on my friend's loss post.

MUCH APPRECIATED!
big hugs
betty

p.s. hope you're well. always good to hear from you.

Nadia Carveth said...

This was devastating to read... I'm so sorry for the loss.

Interesting Facts said...

It's the first time I have read your blog and I am sorry that it was this story I read first. I am so sorry for your loss.

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